I nearly kicked Tommy in the face because I was so awkward.
Even though I wanted romance, truth be told, I had no idea how to handle it. Part of the issue was that I never expected it, and I had never related to myself as someone that a man would be romantic with. After all, I was far from your typical delicate fairytale princess.
So how does one get a romantic first date when you’re usually romance-repellant?
1. Say YES when he asks you out
2. ALLOW the romance to happen no matter how unnatural it feels
So there we were, 1st date, on this funky roof top patio downtown Toronto. He seemed pleased by everything that came out of my mouth and I was in awe of his life experiences (so different from the narrow-minded jock I had pinned him as).
We were sitting at a high table so my feet didn’t touch the ground. Inevitably, my shoe slipped off.
I blurted “oh shit” being the graceful lady that I am, and was trying to figure out how I would get my shoe without knocking over the table (I am the clumsiest person I know).
But before I made a move, Tommy darted in front of me and picked up my shoe.
Every cell in my body went awkward. “oh no, he’s going to see my fat legs” was my first thought. But luckily, my second thought was “just let it happen”.
I actively and intentionally did nothing, and let this gorgeous, gentleman put my fallen shoe back on my foot.
As he looked up at me, I swear to God, the next thing that happened was this.
A middle-aged woman from across the patio, cries out: “Oh my gawwwd, you’re like Cinderella!”
Holy crap! I was having one of those magical romantic, moments and I didn’t screw it up!
Finally I had met someone who was pursuing me with fierce intention, but not just trying to get in my pants.
Finally I had met someone who intrigued me as much as I intrigued him.
But of course, this just led to a whole bucket of new barriers:
– Who do I choose? (there was that boring Tinder guy who turned out to be amazing too!)
– Is he really a match for me?
– How do I NOT turn into that 14 year old girl who likes a boy way too much way too quickly?
– How do I just enjoy date #2 without planning our future wedding?
Can you see that 95%l of this is about the INNER work?
Finding potentials is definitely part of the journey and I can help you get great men in front of you.
But you have YOUR OWN barriers and blocks that will get in the way. You have your own default programming that will turn even the greatest guy into another one of your patterns.
This is why POWER LOVE exists. It’s an 8-week training to help you with the practical skills as well as the deep inner work so you can attract the right person, AND ALLOW the intimacy you REALLY want without SABOTAGING it and without COMPROMISING yourself.
It’s pretty rad.
Doors are only open until March 7th so jump in today. There’s a customizable self-study version where you can purchase coaching only as needed, and there’s a version that includes group coaching and community.
Ask me any questions you have
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P.S. Guess what Tommy gave me for our first year’s anniversary? A necklace with a Cinderella slipper! So frickin’ romantic!!!!
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